10 Reasons to Date a Black Woman / by Shanelle Gabriel

My friend Pages (@pagesofle) did a google search on the phrase "reasons to date a Black woman." He states:

Apparently, when you type "10 reasons to date a black girl" on google the first thing that comes up is...you guessed it..."Top 10 reasons why it's HARD to date a Black woman" followed by 10 reasons to not date a geek, 10 reasons to not date a Black man, and 8 reasons to date a White woman. I am at page 7 on google and I still haven't come up on a single hit of or in semblance to "10 reasons to date a Black woman." SMH. So after over 25 hits on reasons to date a White man, to even dating a vampire, gamer & cheerleaders, on page 9 I got one website. It wasn't even 10 reasons. It's "8 reasons to date/marry a Black woman." Damn, Black women couldn't even get 10, just a cool eight.

So I decided to give Google some help, especially since, I myself am a Black Woman and I'm wonderful to date. lol. I'm also tired of hearing what's WRONG with us and  not what's RIGHT with us. Some of these are of course stereotypes. No race is COMPLETELY one thing. There's crazy all all fronts and sides of the spectrum, just as there are nice women of varied races as well. So please no one get at me and say that their White or Korean mother has these traits, too. I'm sure they do. More power to ya. Here goes!


10 Reasons to Date a Black Woman

1) She won't let anyone disrespect her, her children, or even you for that matter. Folk like to talk about a Black Woman's "rage." I'd like to say, we're extremely protective of the ones we love, including ourselves. This trait may have been  inherited from the slaves that had to watch their loved ones be sold and taken away. Who knows? But I DO know, if you need someone to get a brick and vaseline on your behalf, a Black woman is down for the cause. We love hard. We love gangsta.

2) Ain't nothing like the real thing, baby! While other races are tanning themselves into Carrot Top, injecting curves, buying "Booty Pop" butt pads, adding collagen to make thin lips fuller, we've had these traits naturally for centuries. Imagine, the same body parts we were ridiculed for and told were ugly are considered "desirable" and "beautiful." My hips are hip now! We're the original and the original is wayyyy softer than the artificial. (Anyone who's fallen asleep on or clutching a Black woman's booty will confirm.) We may not get our hair wet, but we look damn good in a bathing suit.

3) We have Superwoman tendencies. The phrase Strong Black Woman comes to mind. An expert at multi-tasking, very driven and passionate about their career, and still looking for love amidst all of this. We love to save others and put others before ourselves, sometimes to our own detriment. Funny observation: I remember a White girlfriend of mine called me crying once. I was instantly on my feet. "What happened? You okay?" She sobs, "Yes...It's just that...my boyfriend Cory can't get into any of his classes in college, so he's gonna have to stay an extra year. He just doesn't know what to do." I paused..."Um, so why are you crying?" "It's just heartbreaking. He's so worried." It was then I understood it. While others are empathetic, Black woman are sympathetic. Our first instinct is not to feel your pain, but to understand and figure out how to fix your pain. ("Baby, have you talked to the registrar? Don't worry, it'll be okay. Let me make dinner.") 

4) No one can wear copper or orange like a brown-skinned and dark-skinned sista. Certain things just look awesome on our skin tone which varies so much that we had to have our own make-up be created. The colors 'light,' 'medium,' and 'dark' are extremely vague when it comes to the skin of a Black female. The plethora of shades we come in make a 96 piece Crayola box look like the 4-pack little kids get at TGI Fridays.

5) Stimulating discussions. They call it having an attitude. I call it having an opinion. No push-overs here. We want to be respected for our minds and intelligence. If you're like Prince Hakim from Zamunda, you can appreciate a woman who brings out the hunter in you and doesn't just give you "Whatever you like" and won't "Bark like a dog. A really BIG dog." 

6) She's going to push you to be your best. Black Women look at things as a WE situation. You do well, we do well. It's not about finding flaws, it's about her seeing the strength and ability inside of you and helping you reach your full potential. 

7) The Queens of Alternative Medicine. If you're sick, getting sick, or don't want to be sick, and you've dated a Black woman, you've probably heard "Okay, drink this." The Black community has a long history of passing down old remedies for anything that ails you. Orange peel, molasses, Ferrol Compound, Scotts Emulsion, and Caraili bush fill her cabinets to help anything that ails you. 

8) Black love is beautiful. Something about watching Will & Jada, Barack and Michelle, Laurence and Gina, Tisha and Duane, Ozzie Davis and Ruby Dee, Denzel and Pauletta, even Beyonce & Jay-Z at a basketball game, just looks sooooo beautiful.

9) Black and anything else is beautiful as well. Statistics say Black female-White male marriages show substantially lower rates of divorce than White-White marriages. Robin Thicke KNOWS he's a lucky man (Paula Patton is GORGEOUS). Robert DeNiro, George Lucas, Wolfgang Puck, Roger Ebert, Justin Chambers, Chris "Mr Big" Noth, David Bowie, and more are all down with loving tha sisters.

10) She's looking for love. With all the talk of the "single Black female," we see a group of women open to giving herself and her love to someone. Black women have made books on dating and intimacy bestsellers; one would like to think that they believe they are in training to make someone very happy. They realize that as successful or complete as they are, there is a need for someone to share it with. Who better but you?